Wednesday, January 11, 2012

The Dating Dump

Get out of the dump!
How do I know if God wants me to stay single or get married? If he wants me to be married, how do I find the right person?  Is there just one person, a soul mate, for me? I love the wrong guy, now what do I do?

Being alone is a breeding ground the evil one uses for discontentment. Typically my counsel on this topic is for college women, but the same discouragement is found among single moms, lonely wives and elderly widows.

Let's throw all these questions in the dumpster, shall we? They're the wrong questions! Your life is not about any single decision (pun intended) such as finding a mate or where you live. Are you becoming the person the person you are looking for is looking for?

God has a plan to give you a largeness of Spirit, a ministry to fulfill and a triumphant life. Don't you sense the potential to do great things in your heart? If you look around the thought clutter, you'll discover it!

Discontentment is a diminishing of who you are to be in Christ.  You are a child of God.  He has a plan for your life! The evil one has a plan for your discontentment, discouragement, depression. How much time have you spent listening to Satan's lies that you can't have something when you have a God who is able to abundantly, victoriously thrill you with an amazing life?

When you're disappointed, fight back! When you're disappointed, dream bigger! Get to work becoming the woman God has called you to be. Discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness. Not in a "woe is me-I have nothing to offer-settling for the 'whole religion thing' kind of way....but in a genuine, "I can take this mountain!" kind of way. Choose a well-lived life, not a life lived in the dumps.

I have put before you life and death. Choose life."~The God of Joy



  1. THANK YOU! I am one of the oldies you refer to, a widow, feeling like I have no more dreams and nothing left to offer anybody. I am sitting on a shelf, forgotten and alone. The pity party is over!!! Nobody came anyhow! LOL Now. What am I to do with myself? I will be praying for an answer in your blog because I just wander about in here and love it!

  2. I loved your article in LOOKOUT MAGAZINE.

    This is my "ONE THING": Choose Life.

    PS:I am going to stay out of the dumpster this year.